Every stage of the Sexual Revolution has produced victims. No-fault divorce produced children scarred in ways no one predicted in 1968. “Kids are resilient: they will be fine as long as their parents are happy.” No-fault divorce also produced The Reluctantly Divorced: those millions of unseen and unacknowledged souls who wanted to stay married, but their spouses wanted divorce. The government takes sides with the partner who wants the marriage the least.
It may not sound plausible, at least not at first. But genderless marriage, that newest edge in the cutting edge of social change, will also produce another whole new batch of victims. These victims will not be entirely innocent, the way so many victims of divorce were. They are adults, taking steps of their own free will. But they will be victims just the same: they are being lied to by the culture.
Exhibit A: Sperm Donor Diary.
This New York Times series is an exploration into the personal meaning of being a known sperm donor to a lesbian couple. David Dodge is uncertain what it means to be a bio-dad.
David writes about being on the Cutting Edge of Gay Family Law. Traditionally, (if I may be so bold as to use such a retro term) “presumption of paternity” answered the question “who’s your daddy?” by saying “the mother’s husband.” The Read more…