When I heard about Robin Williams’ suicide yesterday, I felt shocked. So shocked that it was hard for me to think for several minutes. I kept wondering, “What? Huh? Is this real?” I could not imagine this extremely talented man as being dead. Not only that, but anytime I hear of somebody’s suicide it reminds me of my own father’s death. He also committed suicide, back in 1991.
In the next 24 hours after Williams’ death, my Facebook stream was filled with posts about him. One of these made a reference to an interview Williams did in September 2013, with Parade. In that interview he mentioned his two divorces and the amount of money he lost because of them: Read more…
BY NICOLE M. KING
The News Story – Top 7 worst states for divorce
An ABC News story this week highlighted the top 7 “worst” states for divorce, as indicated by the filing fee, length of minimum separation period, residency requirements, and length of processing period. “Divorce can take an emotional toll on a family,” says ABC, “but the filing and legal process can add another headache in these seven states. Read more…
BY NICOLE M. KING
The News Story – How Dad’s involvement can address the gender gap in higher education
While research has told us that the prevalence of divorce in our society can account for the gender gap within higher education, a recent article in The Huffington Post sheds more light on what the exact causal relation might be. It may not just be the possibility of divorce, itself, that has such an impact on both female and male adolescents, but rather the lack of father involvement in the lives of male children. Read more…
Have we been too focused on “same sex marriage” and not focused enough on divorce? I think so. So when I see tweets like these, I can’t help but think, “Yea, you have a point.”
Divorce is a big problem that Christians have not confronted adequately. Thus, we have lost our witness and moral authority in regards to the institution of marriage. At least, that’s how it looks to me. But no need to despair about it, because you can…
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Life, not just summer, is complicated for children of divorce.
Children of divorce are twice as likely to have a stroke.
Children of divorce feel anxious and afraid.
Children of divorce don’t perform as well in terms of education and health.
Children of divorce are reliant on psychiatric help.
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This sounds like an excellent film, but even if you don’t manage to see it, reading the commentary here is an eye-opening education in itself of what the divorce industry has really become.
A searing new documentary exposes the human and social cost of tearing families apart.
by Francisco José Pérez Valero
This article and a trailer for the movie was found here.
Divorce Corp, Directed by Joseph Sorge, Narrated by Drew Pinsky.
The dollars and cents of American divorce are the subject of this blunt, realistic film populated by a series of postmodern characters who are afflicted by a series of circumstances they were unprepared to face. The problem has deep roots. America’s family courts were born in the 1950s, in an era of economic boom and social well-being. Their aim was to preserve the right to divorce in extreme circumstances. Read more…
To Renee Jacques at HuffPo,
I came across your article today:
11 Reasons Your Parents’ Divorce Isn’t So Bad After All
The piece is so callous that at first I wondered if you were joking. Then I realized you weren’t joking.
It’s hard to know where to start in my criticism of your piece, so let’s just dive into the middle:
3. You know to never ignore your emotions and to face your feelings. That way, you can make the hard but important decisions in your life.
“You know to never ignore your emotions….” except your emotions about your parent’s divorce and how confusing it is. Those must be ignored at all costs, so that your parents won’t ever feel bad about their choices. If your feelings make them feel bad, this might jeopardize your standing with them since as a child you’re the vulnerable one.
Or how about this:
4. You begin to realize how much your opinion matters to your parents.
“Your opinion matters to your parents…” except your opinion about their divorce(s), remarriages, and all the Read more…
I found this heartbreaking photo on Twitter:
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Around March of 2013 I came across the words of a prominent LGBT activist named Masha Gessen:
I have three kids who have five parents, more or less, and I don’t see why they shouldn’t have five parents legally… I would like to live in a legal system that is capable of reflecting that reality, and I don’t think that’s compatible with the institution of marriage.
Imagine having five parents! Here’s what it means: it means going back and forth between all those households on a regular basis, never having a single place to call home during your most tender and vulnerable years. It means having divided Christmases, other holidays, and birthdays–you spend one with one parent, and another with the other parent, never spending a single holiday or birthday with both parents. Imagine having each of your parents completely ignore the other half of you, the other half of your family, as if it did not even exist. Meanwhile, imagine each parent pouring their energy into their new families and creating a unified home for their new children. These experiences give you the definite impression of being something leftover, something not quite part of them. You live like that on a daily basis for 18+ years.
As a child, would you choose a family structure advocated by Masha Gessen? Does this look fun?
I don’t have to imagine, because I had five parents. I had five parents because my mom and dad divorced when I was about three; my mom remarried once and my dad remarried twice. So I had a mom and two step-moms, and a dad and one step-dad. In this day and age children can already have five parents. That’s how badly marriage has deteriorated already. The main difference between what Gessen advocates and my experience is that my step parents were not legal parents; she advocates for all of the adults in her situation to be legal parents.
“I’m so glad you are doing this, Jenny. But I cannot write about my experience. It is still too painful.”
“This” refers to the Ruth Institute’s Kids Divorce Stories initiative. This completely free and open feature gives people a chance to talk about their childhood experiences, going through their parents’ divorces. People talk about what it was like for them when they
For some kids, this is their last memory of their dad.
watched their father walk away for the last time. They write about feeling like a second class citizens within the new reconstituted families. They write about having only one or two photos of themselves with both of their parents, or about watching their mom cut all the photos of their dad out of the family photo album.
“The kids will be fine as long as their parents are happy.” “Kids are Read more…