Archive for the ‘Divorce’ Category

Are you fighting same-sex marriage but not divorce?

July 10th, 2014 Comments off

Have we been too focused on “same sex marriage” and not focused enough on divorce? I think so. So when I see tweets like these, I can’t help but think, “Yea, you have a point.”

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Divorce is a big problem that Christians have not confronted adequately. Thus, we have lost our witness and moral authority in regards to the institution of marriage. At least, that’s how it looks to me. But no need to despair about it, because you can…

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Tweeting about the Children of Divorce

July 9th, 2014 Comments off
Life, not just summer, is complicated for children of divorce.

Life, not just summer, is complicated for children of divorce.

Children of divorce are twice as likely to have a stroke.

Children of divorce are twice as likely to have a stroke.

Children of divorce feel anxious.

Children of divorce feel anxious and afraid.


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Children of divorce don’t perform as well in terms of education and health.


Children of divorce are more likely to need psychiatric help.

Children of divorce are reliant on psychiatric help.

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The bitter price of divorce

June 30th, 2014 Comments off

This sounds like an excellent film, but even if you don’t manage to see it, reading the commentary here is an eye-opening education in itself of what the divorce industry has really become.

A searing new documentary exposes the human and social cost of tearing families apart.

by Francisco José Pérez Valero
This article and a trailer for the movie was found here.

Divorce Corp, Directed by Joseph Sorge, Narrated by Drew Pinsky.
93 minutes

The dollars and cents of American divorce are the subject of this blunt, realistic film populated by a series of postmodern characters who are afflicted by a series of circumstances they were unprepared to face. The problem has deep roots. America’s family courts were born in the 1950s, in an era of economic boom and social well-being. Their aim was to preserve the right to divorce in extreme circumstances. Read more…

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To Renee Jacques at HuffPo: your kids and divorce article was callous and one-sided

June 26th, 2014 Comments off

To Renee Jacques at HuffPo,

I came across your article today:

11 Reasons Your Parents’ Divorce Isn’t So Bad After All

The piece is so callous that at first I wondered if you were joking. Then I realized you weren’t joking.

It’s hard to know where to start in my criticism of your piece, so let’s just dive into the middle:

3. You know to never ignore your emotions and to face your feelings. That way, you can make the hard but important decisions in your life.

“You know to never ignore your emotions….” except your emotions about your parent’s divorce and how confusing it is. Those must be ignored at all costs, so that your parents won’t ever feel bad about their choices. If your feelings make them feel bad, this might jeopardize your standing with them since as a child you’re the vulnerable one.

Or how about this:

4. You begin to realize how much your opinion matters to your parents.

“Your opinion matters to your parents…”  except your opinion about their divorce(s), remarriages, and all the Read more…

We need more forgiveness…

June 26th, 2014 Comments off

I found this heartbreaking photo on Twitter:

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I had Masha Gessen’s dream of five parents… and it sucked

June 25th, 2014 Comments off
Around March of 2013 I came across the words of a prominent LGBT activist named Masha Gessen:
I have three kids who have five parents, more or less, and I don’t see why they shouldn’t have five parents legally… I would like to live in a legal system that is capable of reflecting that reality, and I don’t think that’s compatible with the institution of marriage.


Imagine having five parents! Here’s what it means: it means going back and forth between all those households on a regular basis, never having a single place to call home during your most tender and vulnerable years. It means having divided Christmases, other holidays, and birthdays–you spend one with one parent, and another with the other parent, never spending a single holiday or birthday with both parents. Imagine having each of your parents completely ignore the other half of you, the other half of your family, as if it did not even exist. Meanwhile, imagine each parent pouring their energy into their new families and creating a unified home for their new children. These experiences give you the definite impression of being something leftover, something not quite part of them. You live like that on a daily basis for 18+ years.

Does this look like a fun way to spend your childhood?

As a child, would you choose a family structure advocated by Masha Gessen? Does this look fun?


I don’t have to imagine, because I had five parents. I had five parents because my mom and dad divorced when I was about three; my mom remarried once and my dad remarried twice. So I had a mom and two step-moms, and a dad and one step-dad. In this day and age children can already have five parents. That’s how badly marriage has deteriorated already. The main difference between what Gessen advocates and my experience is that my step parents were not legal parents; she advocates for all of the adults in her situation to be legal parents.

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Let’s listen to the Children of Divorce

June 21st, 2014 Comments off

“I’m so glad you are doing this, Jenny. But I cannot write about my experience. It is still too painful.”

“This” refers to the Ruth Institute’s Kids Divorce Stories initiative. This completely free and open feature gives people a chance to talk about their childhood experiences, going through their parents’ divorces.  People talk about what it was like for them when they

For some kids, this is their last memory of their dad.

For some kids, this is their last memory of their dad.

watched their father walk away for the last time.  They write about feeling like a second class citizens within the new reconstituted families. They write about having only one or two photos of themselves with both of their parents, or about watching their mom cut all the photos of their dad out of the family photo album.

“The kids will be fine as long as their parents are happy.”  “Kids are Read more…


June 20th, 2014 Comments off

by Sam Johnson

My mum remarried twice, as did my dad. They split up when I was 11, my sister 8. Mum divorced 3 times.

Mum’s 2nd husband Roy was nice to me – he encouraged me to smoke Players untipped cigs and we could talk about smart stuff – but called my sister ‘the moron’. Read more…

Looking in the wrong places to explain another mass murder

June 10th, 2014 Comments off

Why haven’t the media zeroed in on the divorce of Elliot Rodger’s parents?

by Michael Cook

Once again America is looking for someone to blame for a rampage killing. Read more…

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Is “conscious uncoupling” really such a loopy idea?

April 15th, 2014 Comments off
Gwyneth Paltrow was ridiculed when she explained her divorce, but there’s a nugget of truth in her words.

It’s very easy to make fun of celebrities when they endorse alternative therapies or weird quasi-religious cults. But if we’re honest with ourselves, there’s an unhealthy dose of envy in such reactions, as if we finally have an opportunity to look down on some ridiculously successful, attractive, wealthy, skilled, or popular individual. Read more…

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