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The Inhumanity of Marrying Up

October 24th, 2014 No comments

by Samantha Schroeder, a Ruth Institute “It Takes a Family” 2012 conference attendee

This article was first published at ethikapolitika.org on October 9, 2014.

Why is it that we continue to refer to “marrying up” in predominantly socioeconomic terms, as if we’ve just signed a contract for a kitchen renovation instead of a nuptial covenant between two loving persons?

The oft-discussed idea of “marrying up” pervades online journalism, from a New York Times piece by Stephanie Coontz, “The M.R.S. and the Ph.D.” to Kate Bolic’s piece in The Atlantic about the “radically shrinking pool of what are traditionally considered to be ‘marriageable’ men—those who are better educated and earn more than [women] do.” The ideas expressed Coontz’s article—that the material concerns of intellectual and fiscal prosperity trump all others—reminded me of a comment that my mom and my grandmother made of my last college boyfriend: “You can do better, you know that, right?” Read more…

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It is not their fault: why I am not angry at the lesbians suing the sperm bank

October 9th, 2014 Comments off

One only has to look through a few comments on websites, Left or Right, to see that the lesbian lawsuit for breach of warranty and wrongful birth over a mixed race baby has struck a very negative chord.  Decent people, Right and Left, feel all wrong about a mother suing the sperm bank because she didn’t get the child she ordered.

I certainly agree that it is all wrong.  I just want to put the blame squarely where it belongs. Not on the sperm bank for “medical malpractice.”  Not on the lesbian mother for saying, “I’m not going to let them get away with not being held accountable.”

They love the baby: who wouldn't love this little sweetheart?

They love the baby: who wouldn’t love this little sweetheart?

No, I place the blame on the Elites who have imagined, sustained and defended the Sexual Revolutionary ideology.  This ideology is indefensible, unsustainable and is causing unimaginable misery.

The mother, Jennifer Cramblett, is just the latest in a long string of ordinary people who have built their lives around lies. Fantasy ideologies may look good on paper or in a legal brief. But when a real person tries to build her life around ideas that are untrue, that real person can run into real problems.

Ms. Cramblett is not a celebrity lesbian.  She does not have a law degree or work for a prestigious activist organization or have a TV show. She works at an ATT store. I do not see any of the Establishment Gay Legal organizations hovering around her case. (I’m guessing they Read more…

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Building a Better Fatherhood

October 4th, 2014 Comments off

Self-giving love is the best foundation for family life

By Scott Yenor

This article was originally published at fathersforgood.org on September 21, 2014.

Cultural support for fatherhood has collapsed in the past 50 years, and there are few signs of a renewal. In light of this, how can fathers summon the courage to fulfill their mission?

Their mission is two-fold: to love their wives and commit to providing for the total welfare of their child. Each of these requires from men a conscious attitude of self-giving love. This admirable attitude does not come always naturally to us, and it is increasingly under siege in our culture that emphasizes independence and self-fulfillment. Read more…

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Stand Up to Elites to Stand for Children

September 23rd, 2014 Comments off

Why should we stand for the family, or for marriage, or for life or for any of the culturally-conservative issues?

Ordinary People Standing for the Family in Utah

Ordinary People Standing for the Family in Utah

Living in California during the Proposition 8 debates, I had a front row seat watching the “elites” mangle the meaning of marriage. The judicial elites have handed down a disastrous series of federal court decisions, solidifying governmental commitment to the ideology of the sexual revolution. The entertainment elites seem to celebrate every family form except the natural family of a loving father and mother
married faithfully to one another and raising their own children together. The media elites continue their shameless manipulation of public opinion. The economic elites pour money into political and propaganda campaigns designed to prop up the structure of the sexual revolution. Academic elites continue behind-the-scenes scribbling, advocating for recreating marriage, the family, and even the human body, in their own image. Read more…

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Family Secrets and Embarrassment

September 10th, 2014 Comments off

A note from a Facebook friend prompted me to reflect on family secrets and their potentially toxic impact on relationships.

I want you to know why I have not responded to your call to “share our stories.” I cannot tell the whole of my story until some in it are no longer living- I guess we all keep our secrets to some extent. I just wanted to let you know I’m paying attention, even if there is no evidence of it. Keep the faith!! 

Family Secrets: hush!

Family Secrets: hush!

Here is my response to her:

Thank you my friend. This means a lot to me.  I do not know that I would speak out so boldly, if my own parents were still living.

Having said that, let me encourage you to consider this:

Family secrets can be poisonous. Be on the lookout for situations where hidden information is burdening someone unnecessarily. Sharing parts of your story could be very healing for younger members of your family.

Sometimes, younger family members have suspicions about some Forbidden Topic. No one is willing to talk about the subject at all. The suspicions never get confirmed or denied. The Read more…

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My Story of Survival

August 29th, 2014 Comments off

by Randali (not her real name)

After years of conflict between my experience and the sexual revolution narrative, I stopped being sexually active and focused on rebuilding myself. I sought alternative views on sexuality and discovered Theology of the Body [by St. Pope John Paul II] which rang very true. I wish someone had told me these things earlier instead of having to re-invent the wheel alone in the 21st century.

I was born and raised in Lebanon. I was baptized Maronite but I grew up in a secular, progressive bubble. I used to read Western

I wish someone had told me....

I wish someone had told me….

magazines and brainwashed myself into the sexual liberation ideology. Sex was like a pleasant massage and a healthy physical activity I was eager to try. My only hard limits were age and consent. But everything was permissible between two (or more) consenting adults. This was the official party line. Read more…

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AB 1951, the “Gay Birth Certificate” bill

August 27th, 2014 Comments off

natural marriage limits the stateI have always tried to argue that there is a very serious civil outcome to redefining marriage, and it has nothing to do with religious liberty or the idea of “sacramental marriage.”

Since marriage is society’s primary way of acknowledging and understanding parenthood, redefining marriage redefines parenthood. Here in California, the affects of “SSM” and redefining parenthood are rapidly making their way through the legislature. Last year, Gov. Brown signed a bill allowing three or more legal parents for children, which was inspired by a “SSM” custody dispute.

Now we have this: AB 1951. This bill will change birth certificates to allow for a gender neutral option for parents. Gay couples will be able to list both of themselves on the child’s birth certificate. California recently did away with the terms “husband” and “wife,” because of “SSM,” and the lead legislator for that measure said that those terms were outdated and biased. I suppose we can infer the same thing for “mother” and “father.”  Read more…

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Karen’s Story: Cohabiting with Regrets

August 26th, 2014 Comments off

cohabiting with regretsI believe we are living under a brutal sexual regime. The Sexual Revolution routinely chews people up and spits them out.

Let me tell you a story about a young woman whom I know by reputation, but have never met. I have inferred some parts of her story, based on my experiences that are in some ways similar to hers.

Karen was the oldest girl in a large Catholic family. She entered nursing school in the 1980’s. At the age of twenty, she left her family home to look for an apartment.  She called an old family friend seeking advice.

The old family friend was a much older man, some forty years older. She moved into the basement of his home. Almost immediately, she entered into a sexual relationship with him. This relationship lasted about six years.  She ended the relationship because she wanted to have children and he didn’t.  He already had grown children from his first marriage. Read more…

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Why We Stand for the Family

August 22nd, 2014 Comments off

by Jennifer Roback Morse, Ph.D.

Why should we stand for the family, or for marriage, or for any of the cultrually conservative issues?

The Judicial Elites have handed down a disastrous series of Federal Court decisions, solidifying governmental commitment to the ideology of the Sexual Revolution. The Entertainment Elites seem to celebrate every family form, except the natural family of a loving father and mother faithful to one another and raising their own children together. The Media Elites continue their shameless manipulation of public opinion. The Economic Elites pour money into political campaigns and propaganda campaigns designed to prop up the structure of the Sexual Revolution. Academic Elites continue their behind-the-scenes scribbling, advocating for recreating marriage, the family and even the human body, in their own image. Read more…

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The Sexual State: The Purpose of our government

July 19th, 2014 Comments off

babies are inconvienentWhat is the purpose of government?

Let us look around us to draw the conclusion. Based on what we observe our government doing, we would have to conclude:

The real purpose of the government is to give people the sex lives they want, with a minimum of inconvenience.

You want to have sex without having a baby? No problem, we’ll give you contraception at no cost to you.

You want to have sex and you got pregnant and you don’t want the baby?  That’s inconvenient. We’ll give you an abortion.

You want to have sex with someone you aren’t married to?  Your spouse and children are inconvenient.  We’ll give you a no-fault divorce so you won’t be inconvenienced by your obligations to your spouse and children. Read more…

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