Archive for the ‘Hook-up’ Category

Going on a date for extra credit

August 1st, 2014 Comments off

This is the state of things now. Young adults need classes, instruction, and added motivation just to date. Very sad.

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The News Story – Would you ask a peer out for extra credit? School offers dating classes

Recent research has shown that our current “hook-up” culture has proved unsatisfying, in particular for women. Given this, some colleges have begun to reintroduce and reemphasize the possibility of dating and committed relationships. Read more…

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Taylor Swift: Another Victim of the Sexual Revolution

June 8th, 2014 Comments off

The Entertainment Media Establishment, Gossip Division, is reporting that Taylor Swift gave her virginity to a man she thought was going to marry her.  Three months later, she had a party for herself, and he didn’t show up. This took place at Christmastime of 2010. I don’t know exactly why The Entertainment Media Establishment, Gossip Division is reporting it now. Maybe Ms. Swift’s handlers issued a new press release about it, to drum up publicity. Or something.

Pop star, yes, but also just a 24 year old kid.

Pop star, yes, but also just a 24 year old kid.

In any case, as the mother of a young woman about the same age as Taylor, I find the whole story heartbreaking. Some of the media outlets have been down-right catty towards this now 24 year old young woman, over the years since she broke up with Jake. calls her the “Miss Goodie Goodie of the pop community.”  The Huffington Post admitted that “ for her part, Swift is devastated,” but opined, “On the plus side, at least she’s got some new material for her next album.”  Hollywood Life wants to know: “What do YOU think HollywoodLifers? Is Taylor right to diss Jake again? Should she and Harry reunite?”

The Entertainment Media Establishment, Gossip Division seems indifferent to the fact that Taylor was 20 years old when this happened.  She was and to some extent remains, a vulnerable young woman. I’m guessing the authors of these catty columns about her are somewhat older than 20.

She was “saving herself for marriage.”  The guy convinced her to have sex with him. Shortly after, he ditched her.

Not mentioned in any of these stories: women tend to attach to their sex Read more…

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Hook-up culture is ruining our marriage prospects

November 1st, 2013 Comments off

Why our generation can’t handle commitment


Why does an unanswered text message elicit so much angst? Why are we attracted to people we don’t even like? And why do we shrug off people who show an incessant interest in us? Because we do not want commitment, we want a scandal. We do not want to settle down, we want a chase and a casual hook-up. Read more…

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Return to Eden

August 15th, 2013 Comments off

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anthony esolen quoteI found this graphic on Facebook through The Ruth Institute and could immediately relate to these words. I was trapped in “the jungle” for years and thought I was too broken for marriage.

In 1989, the French comity of education for health (Comité français d’éducation pour la santé) came up with this slogan: “condoms protect from everything but love” and it has influenced my generation. As many disenchanted girls, I found out the hard way that casual sex is not love. Read more…

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Everyone’s (not) doing it!

July 25th, 2013 Comments off

by Tamara Rajakariar

Yes, sex is everywhere – in movies, advertising, music. Yes, it’s more talked about than ever before. Yes, it seems the norm amongst young people in both committed and uncommitted relationships. But maybe not everyone’s doing it after all… Read more…

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Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too

July 18th, 2013 Comments off

This is a very long magazine article on the campus hookup culture.  I haven’t read the whole thing, but the first few paragraphs are so sad. This article has been getting a lot of media attention. -Ginny, contributor


At 11 on a weeknight earlier this year, her work finished, a slim, pretty junior at the University of Pennsylvania did what she often does when she has a little free time. She texted her regular hookup — the guy she is sleeping with but not dating. What was he up to? He texted back: Come over. So she did. They watched a little TV, had sex and went to sleep. Read more…

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Detox your love life

June 10th, 2013 Comments off

by Tamara Rajakariar

Detox is all the rage these days. Detox your body with the so-and-so diet, cleanse your inner energy with this type of meditation, detox your life and find yourself at this exotic place… you get my gist. Most of these seem a bit far-fetched to me personally, but this new book on relationship “detox” seems like it could be a find. Read more…

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How I Know My Wife Married the “Wrong” Person

June 5th, 2013 Comments off

Today my wife Lindsay and I celebrate our two year anniversary. Two years ago, we tied the knot and took the plunge. Two years ago, the cutest girl in Indiana was taken off the market! Two years ago, we launched the beginning of the rest of our lives. Two years ago…

And after two years, there’s no hiding behind the dinner-and-a-movie façade of dating life any longer. I can’t buy enough flowers to conceal it. I can’t open enough doors. I can’t say enough “I love you’s.” She knows (and painfully, so do I) that she married the wrong person. Read more…

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The End of Meaningless Sex

May 2nd, 2013 Comments off


Donna Freitas’s new book on the hookup culture rightly encourages students to see its harms, but fails to give them moral reasons for opting out of it.

College life has long been seen as a kind of debauch: “To understand all is to forgive all,” an intoxicated Etonian tells Charles Ryder in Brideshead Revisited, and in Animal House John Belushi’s monosyllables echo agreement. Yet these days, something new is taking place. Scholars and journalists offer their takes on the hookup culture: the deflowering of American youth that takes place every weekend (and many weeknights) on university campuses. Read more…

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Judith Grossman: A Mother, a Feminist, Aghast

April 17th, 2013 Comments off

Unsubstantiated accusations against my son by a former girlfriend landed him before a nightmarish college tribunal.


I am a feminist. I have marched at the barricades, subscribed to Ms. magazine, and knocked on many a door in support of progressive candidates committed to women’s rights. Until a month ago, I would have expressed unqualified support for Title IX and for the Violence Against Women Act.

But that was before my son, a senior at a small liberal-arts college in New England, was charged—by an ex-girlfriend—with alleged acts of “nonconsensual sex” that supposedly occurred during the course of their relationship a few years earlier. Read more…

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