Archive for the ‘Hook-up’ Category

Hook-up culture is ruining our marriage prospects

November 1st, 2013 Comments off

Why our generation can’t handle commitment


Why does an unanswered text message elicit so much angst? Why are we attracted to people we don’t even like? And why do we shrug off people who show an incessant interest in us? Because we do not want commitment, we want a scandal. We do not want to settle down, we want a chase and a casual hook-up. Read more…

Return to Eden

August 15th, 2013 Comments off

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anthony esolen quoteI found this graphic on Facebook through The Ruth Institute and could immediately relate to these words. I was trapped in “the jungle” for years and thought I was too broken for marriage.

In 1989, the French comity of education for health (Comité français d’éducation pour la santé) came up with this slogan: “condoms protect from everything but love” and it has influenced my generation. As many disenchanted girls, I found out the hard way that casual sex is not love. Read more…

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Everyone’s (not) doing it!

July 25th, 2013 Comments off

by Tamara Rajakariar

Yes, sex is everywhere – in movies, advertising, music. Yes, it’s more talked about than ever before. Yes, it seems the norm amongst young people in both committed and uncommitted relationships. But maybe not everyone’s doing it after all… Read more…

Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too

July 18th, 2013 Comments off

This is a very long magazine article on the campus hookup culture.  I haven’t read the whole thing, but the first few paragraphs are so sad. This article has been getting a lot of media attention. -Ginny, contributor


At 11 on a weeknight earlier this year, her work finished, a slim, pretty junior at the University of Pennsylvania did what she often does when she has a little free time. She texted her regular hookup — the guy she is sleeping with but not dating. What was he up to? He texted back: Come over. So she did. They watched a little TV, had sex and went to sleep. Read more…

Detox your love life

June 10th, 2013 Comments off

by Tamara Rajakariar

Detox is all the rage these days. Detox your body with the so-and-so diet, cleanse your inner energy with this type of meditation, detox your life and find yourself at this exotic place… you get my gist. Most of these seem a bit far-fetched to me personally, but this new book on relationship “detox” seems like it could be a find. Read more…

How I Know My Wife Married the “Wrong” Person

June 5th, 2013 Comments off

Today my wife Lindsay and I celebrate our two year anniversary. Two years ago, we tied the knot and took the plunge. Two years ago, the cutest girl in Indiana was taken off the market! Two years ago, we launched the beginning of the rest of our lives. Two years ago…

And after two years, there’s no hiding behind the dinner-and-a-movie façade of dating life any longer. I can’t buy enough flowers to conceal it. I can’t open enough doors. I can’t say enough “I love you’s.” She knows (and painfully, so do I) that she married the wrong person. Read more…

The End of Meaningless Sex

May 2nd, 2013 Comments off


Donna Freitas’s new book on the hookup culture rightly encourages students to see its harms, but fails to give them moral reasons for opting out of it.

College life has long been seen as a kind of debauch: “To understand all is to forgive all,” an intoxicated Etonian tells Charles Ryder in Brideshead Revisited, and in Animal House John Belushi’s monosyllables echo agreement. Yet these days, something new is taking place. Scholars and journalists offer their takes on the hookup culture: the deflowering of American youth that takes place every weekend (and many weeknights) on university campuses. Read more…

Judith Grossman: A Mother, a Feminist, Aghast

April 17th, 2013 Comments off

Unsubstantiated accusations against my son by a former girlfriend landed him before a nightmarish college tribunal.


I am a feminist. I have marched at the barricades, subscribed to Ms. magazine, and knocked on many a door in support of progressive candidates committed to women’s rights. Until a month ago, I would have expressed unqualified support for Title IX and for the Violence Against Women Act.

But that was before my son, a senior at a small liberal-arts college in New England, was charged—by an ex-girlfriend—with alleged acts of “nonconsensual sex” that supposedly occurred during the course of their relationship a few years earlier. Read more…

Knot Yet: putting the baby carriage before marriage

March 22nd, 2013 Comments off

by Barbara Ray

One in two mothers in America is now having a baby then marrying later, if at all.

A profound shift is happening in America. Somewhere around 2000, the country quietly reached a tipping point: women, in a trend driven largely by “middle-American” women, collectively began putting the baby carriage before marriage.

In fact, for women on the whole, the age of first birth is now 25.7 while the age at first marriage is 26.5.

Let that sink in a moment. Read more…

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Bachelor Sean Lowe is not your stereotypical virgin

March 15th, 2013 Comments off

by Ashley Crouch

Ever since US Weekly printed the front page story, “The Virgin Bachelor,” which described Sean Lowe’s born-again virginity and commitment to wait until his marriage night to have sex, there has been no shortage of conversation percolating throughout the blogosphere. Read more…

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