December 21st, 2011
Betsy
by Joanna Hyatt
This past summer, I spent a fantastic weekend as one of about 40 international students who attended the Ruth Institute’s “It Takes a Family” 2011 conference (ITAF). While there, I met two students from the University of Pittsburgh, Joseph Petrich and Alex Souchuns. Both are involved in the Anscombe Society on campus, with Joseph the current president. The Anscombe Society is connected with the Love & Fidelity Network and seeks to 
educate and raise awareness on issues of life, fidelity, love, and sex within marriage. These groups are beginning to crop up on campuses across the country, and while they may go by any number of names, their purpose is the same. In a culture that seeks to remove all boundaries on sex and encourages college students to simply practice ‘safe’ sex, these students call their peers to something better, something higher, something that is the best for not only their body, but also their heart. Read more…
Cardinal Hall at Catholic University of America, Brookland neighborhood, Washington. Another school year is in full swing. Frat houses around the country are once again swollen with partygoers and intoxicated youth. Sunday mornings once again mark the regret of thousands of young women who hooked-up the night prior and either cannot remember what they did, or do remember and are trying to forget. Read more…
by Mary Rice Hasson
A new book shows that premarital sex has almost nothing to do with marriage – at least, not a happy one.
It’s complicated.
More than a Facebook relationship status, “it’s complicated” sums up the ambiguity, fluidity, and contradictions experienced by “emerging adults” in America–at least when it comes to sex and relationships. What’s simple are the numbers: 84 per cent of unmarried, heterosexual, emerging adults (ages 18-23) in America have had sex—a number that cuts a wide swath across religious denominations, political leanings, family backgrounds, education levels, and geographic regions. Read more…
More evidence that the common state of our society has some issues.
By Caroline May – The Daily Caller
“Girl power” might have brought women and girls victories in academics and sports but, as a recent book out of the University of Texas reports, an unintended consequence of women’s success has given men a leg up in the game of love.
Based on research published in their new book,“Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate and Think About Marrying,” Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker, sociologists from the University of Texas at Austin, have found that with women becoming more educated and professionally successful than ever, it has become extremely difficult for them to find a committed man. Read more…
So much for sex ed was fixing this problem.
By Robert Preidt, HealthDay
People in non-romantic sexual relationships today are likely to have multiple partners, researchers have found, and that behavior could promote the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, they note.
“The United States has seen a major shift toward non-romantic sexual partnerships — people becoming sexually involved when they are just casually dating or not dating at all,” study author Anthony Paik, a sociologist at the University of Iowa College of Liberal Arts and Sciences, said in a university news release. Read more…
by Elizabeth Landau – CNN.com Health Writer/Producer
It’s not a new theory: As women progress in educational and professional opportunities, their odds of finding a committed man appear to go down. Women in their 40s and 50s have long heard this, but new research finds it’s true for women just entering adulthood as well.
That’s one of the findings in the new book “Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate and Think About Marrying,” by researchers Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker at the University of Texas at Austin.
They looked at the results from a number of national studies including the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health and the National Study of Youth and Religion, in addition to interviews with young people ages 18 to 23. Read more…
When I heard the trailer for this movie on pandora, my first thought was, “What a piece of trash.” My second thought was, “. . . . No, my first thought was correct.”
Here’s the premise: two friends decide to sleep together. Not because they like each other in that way, mind you, but because they want sex and are willing to provide that service for each other “no strings attached.”
How nice. Read more…
Stuart Schneiderman explains why people are best served by being judgmental.
On hooking up:
Her post yesterday addressed the problem of judging the character of men who maintain friendships with cads, with men who use women for mere sexual pleasure.
No one approves of anyone using anyone else for anything, no less free sexual favors.
And yet, the hookup culture exists, to the point where it appears to have supplanted the dating culture, and the reason is that women allow it to exist. Read more…
Let’s say that you’ve been reading the Ruth Blog for a while. You’ve seen my brilliant and insightful commentary about how stupid it is to hook up. You decide that you will refrain from having sex until you are married.
That decision is not just a resolution. It’s also a prediction. How accurate is that prediction? Read more…
It’s a great way to keep your head clear. But does anybody care, I wonder?
by Carolyn Moynihan
It is always gratifying when research coincides with common sense and everyday experience, as in the case of a new study showing that a relationship in which sexual intimacy is delayed is more likely to endure. Read more…
Categories: abstinence, Chastity, Co habitation, Happy Marriage, Hook-up, Marriage Tags: Chastity, Divorce, happy marriage, hooking up, marriages, relationships
From an article from the journal Evolutionary Psychology on hooking up. (And bonus! It was written by professors from my alma mater).
Engaging in uncommitted sex may be one form of female-female competition. If this is so, we would predict that women attribute to other women comfort levels that are higher than they, themselves, feel; this would generate PI that would heighten women’s awareness of potential threats from female competitors and may motivate women to engage in competition.
Recently, while watching The Soup, I saw a fantastic illustration of the above. Okay, it was a crass and disgusting illustration of the above, but the proof of the above concept was quite fantastic. Watch: Read more…
Best line: “Thanks to a society that no longer believes in healthy boundaries nor explains why they are important, students on college campuses are learning to be experts in infidelity; they are studying how to lie and cheat with their bodies and affections.”
by Viviana M Garcia
Students on college campuses are learning to lie with their bodies and affections, but some are working hard for change. Read more…
An awful lot of nonsense has been said about the supposed “double standards” between the sexual histories of men and the sexual histories of women. The discussion of sexuality is full of it like so much verbal ipecac. The typical whine goes like this “why is it that a man who’s been with a hundred women is a ‘stud’ while a woman who’s been with the same number of men is a “slut’?”
The short answer is because men value the sexual loyalty of women more than women value the sexual loyalty of men. This also explains why hooking up is a much worse idea for women than it is for men. Because a woman’s value as a lifelong partner for marriage diminishes with each passing dalliance. For men, not so much. This does not mean that hooking up is a good idea for men, just that it’s not as bad an idea as it is for women. Read more…
Fred Reed writes some provocative stuff. I often disagree with him, but he’s smart as a whip and always interesting. In this article, he takes on hooking up.
I see where women, or college girls anyway, are honking and blowing most fierce about how they don’t like the way sex works nowadays. Yeah. It seems that the hook-up is in flower. Read more…
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