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I had Masha Gessen’s dream of five parents… and it sucked

June 25th, 2014 Comments off
Around March of 2013 I came across the words of a prominent LGBT activist named Masha Gessen:
I have three kids who have five parents, more or less, and I don’t see why they shouldn’t have five parents legally… I would like to live in a legal system that is capable of reflecting that reality, and I don’t think that’s compatible with the institution of marriage.


Imagine having five parents! Here’s what it means: it means going back and forth between all those households on a regular basis, never having a single place to call home during your most tender and vulnerable years. It means having divided Christmases, other holidays, and birthdays–you spend one with one parent, and another with the other parent, never spending a single holiday or birthday with both parents. Imagine having each of your parents completely ignore the other half of you, the other half of your family, as if it did not even exist. Meanwhile, imagine each parent pouring their energy into their new families and creating a unified home for their new children. These experiences give you the definite impression of being something leftover, something not quite part of them. You live like that on a daily basis for 18+ years.

Does this look like a fun way to spend your childhood?

As a child, would you choose a family structure advocated by Masha Gessen? Does this look fun?


I don’t have to imagine, because I had five parents. I had five parents because my mom and dad divorced when I was about three; my mom remarried once and my dad remarried twice. So I had a mom and two step-moms, and a dad and one step-dad. In this day and age children can already have five parents. That’s how badly marriage has deteriorated already. The main difference between what Gessen advocates and my experience is that my step parents were not legal parents; she advocates for all of the adults in her situation to be legal parents.

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A handout for queer non-monogamists

June 13th, 2014 Comments off


It is getting harder week by week to deny that acceptance of same-sex “marriage” creates a precedent for social and legal recognition of other types of sexual relationships. The Auckland Council, a ratepayer funded local authority in New Zealand, where same-sex marriage was legalised last year, has given a small handout for an event promoting polyamory, Family First reports. Read more…

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ABC Wonders if ‘Polyamory’ Trumps Traditional Marriage

December 9th, 2013 Comments off

by William Bigelow

First the mainstream media championed gay marriage; now they are clearly out to destroy traditional marriage with a vengeance.

On Monday, ABC News decided to publicize a movement known as polyamory, meaning people bedding down with multiple romantic and sexual partners as a legitimate relationship. Co-anchor Dan Harris said, “Just for a minute, let’s do a thought experiment. Let’s set aside all of the emotion and consider whether the evangelists for open marriage might have a point.” Read more…

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Ah, the slippery slope

August 12th, 2013 Comments off

Anita Wagner Illig, a long-time polyamory spokeswoman, told Newsweek that the Supreme Court’s DOMA decision was opening new doors: “A favorable outcome for marriage equality is a favorable outcome for multi-partner marriage, because the opposition cannot argue lack of precedent for legalizing marriage for other forms of non-traditional relationships.” Read more…

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Will polyamory follow same-sex marriage?

August 7th, 2013 Comments off

by Michael Cook

The reasoning is the same; the rewards are the same. Why not?
When the Supreme Court struck down section 3 in the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) in US v Windsor in June, same-sex marriage was not the only beneficiary. The decision seems to have given fresh impetus to polyamory as well. Read more…
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Unconventional marriages may be legal next

August 7th, 2013 Comments off

by Dennis Byrne

“Polyamory advocate: Gay marriage ‘blazing the marriage equality trail.’” (U.S. News & World Report headline, June 24)

“Will polyamory come out of the closet next?” (PolicyMic headline, June 24)

“Polyamory”: noun. Having more than one sexual loving relationship at the same time, with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved. Read more…

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The Big Same Sex Marriage Lie

June 13th, 2013 Comments off

Such a great, logical article, I had to post the whole thing, but it came from here.

by Ryan T. Anderson

Same-sex marriage will never be widely accepted in America for a simple reason: It’s based on a lie. But don’t take my word on this; leading LGBT scholars and activists say as much. Read more…

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Marry Me. And Me.

June 13th, 2013 Comments off

See what a mess you have once the door is open?

Robert A. J. Gagnon  says

Another point that I have been making for 15 years: Societal endorsement of homosexual relationships will promote polyamory. Eliminate a male-female requirement, the foundation for the natural “twoness” of the sexual bond, and don’t be surprised to see polyamory on the rise. Unlike Slate, though, I was not promoting that outcome.

The case for polyamory. And while we’re at it, let’s privatize marriage. Read more…

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Many Unitarians would prefer that their polyamory activists keep quiet

April 22nd, 2013 Comments off


The joke about Unitarians is that they’re where you go when you don’t know where to go. Theirs is the religion of last resort for the intermarried, the ambivalent, the folks who want a faith community without too many rules. It is perhaps no surprise that the Unitarian Universalist Association is one of the fastest-growing denominations in the country, ballooning 15 percent over the past decade, when other established churches were shrinking. Politically progressive to its core, it draws from the pool of people who might otherwise be “nones” – unaffiliated with any church at all.

But within the ranks of the UUA over the past few years, there has been some quiet unrest concerning a small but activist group that vociferously supports polyamory. That is to say “the practice of loving and relating intimately to more than one other person at a time,” according to a mission statement by Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness (UUPA). The UUPA “encourages spiritual wholeness regarding polyamory,” including the right of polyamorous people to have their unions blessed by a minister. Read more…

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Taking same-sex marriage step by step

March 6th, 2013 Comments off

by Michael Cook

Whether you call it polygamy, or polyamory, or consensual nonmonogamy, the notion of multiple partners in a single relationship is just over the horizon.

Australian activists for same-sex marriage have always insisted, that it will not lead to polygamy or polyamory. Never, ever, ever. Gay marriage is just like traditional marriage, except for the sex of the spouse. Activist Rodney Croome wrote last year that “studies show most LGBTI people want to be part of a two-person marriage, while partners in polyamorist relationships (most of which begin as heterosexual unions) say they don’t want their relationships recognised as marriages.” Former Greens leader Bob Brown described a push for polyamory as “nonsense”. Read more…

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