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No more husbands and wives

July 9th, 2014 Comments off

Under California law, there are no longer husbands and wives. Only spouses.

I hate to say I told you so, but I told you so. I have been saying this in debates for some time. A few years ago, I was in a debate at UCLA, with Prof Gary Gates of the Williams Institute. He took offense at the fact that I referred to his partner as well, as “partner.”  “He is not my partner. He is my husband!” Dr. Gates said indignantly.

To which I replied, “Dr. Gates, under the laws you advocate, there will be no husbands or wives. I won’t have a husband. No one will have a husband. Everyone will have generic “spouses.”  (His comment is around 42 minutes. My response is around 52 – 55 minutes. You can’t see his facial expression, but he did seem to be surprised by this news.)

Today it happened: Governor Jerry Brown signed into law, a bill that would remove the gendered terms from the law and replace

No more husbands and wives: thus saith The State, through the pen of Jerry Brown.

No more husbands and wives: thus saith The State, through the pen of Jerry Brown.

them with generic “spouse” terms.

Sex radical Mark Leno, is of course, delighted.

“I am pleased Governor Brown has recognized the importance of this bill, which makes it explicitly clear in state law that every loving couple has the right to marry in California,” Leno said. “This legislation removes outdated and biased language from state codes and recognizes all married spouses equally, regardless of their gender.”

Outdated and biased language. Sorry Gary Gates, you don’t get to have a husband and neither do I.

I hate to say I told you so, but I told you so.

 

 

Gay Parenting: A whole new batch of Victims of the Sexual Revolution

June 27th, 2014 Comments off

Every stage of the Sexual Revolution has produced victims. No-fault divorce produced children scarred in ways no one predicted in 1968.  “Kids are resilient: they will be fine as long as their parents are happy.”  No-fault divorce also produced The Reluctantly Divorced: those millions of unseen and unacknowledged souls who wanted to stay married, but their spouses wanted divorce.  The government takes sides with the partner who wants the marriage the least.

Going from house to house every week, the kids aren't fine.

Going from house to house every week, the kids aren’t fine.

It may not sound plausible, at least not at first. But genderless marriage, that newest edge in the cutting edge of social change, will also produce another whole new batch of victims.  These victims will not be entirely innocent, the way so many victims of divorce were. They are adults, taking steps of their own free will.  But they will be victims just the same: they are being lied to by the culture.

Exhibit A: Sperm Donor Diary.

This New York Times series is an exploration into the personal meaning of being a known sperm donor to a lesbian couple. David Dodge is uncertain what it means to be a bio-dad.

David writes about being on the Cutting Edge of Gay Family Law. Traditionally, (if I may be so bold as to use such a retro term) “presumption of paternity” answered the question “who’s your daddy?” by saying “the mother’s husband.”  The Read more…

Same-sex marriage: coercion dolled up as civil rights

May 9th, 2014 Comments off

Stop treating Brendan Eich as a one-off – gay marriage is inherently illiberal.

Brendan O’Neill

It’s six weeks since Javascript inventor Brendan Eich was hounded out of his job at Mozilla by a virtual mob of intolerant tweeters and campaigners. His crime? Failing to genuflect at the altar of gay marriage, which is now the closest thing our otherwise godless, belief-lite, morally vacuous societies have to a sacred value. For refusing to bow down before this new sainted institution, and for having the temerity to donate money to a campaign group opposed to it, Eich was found guilty by the mob of sacrilege and was hounded out of public life as a modern-day heretic. Read more…

Have we lost our ability to disagree?

April 17th, 2014 Comments off

We have devolved.

That’s not news, except to those people who haven’t been paying attention. How long ago did we actually exercise our right to disagree with facility and reason, in this representative republic, this exercise in democracy? And especially, with dignity? Read more…

“I was jeered and spat at for defending marriage”

April 9th, 2014 Comments off

by CAROLINE FARROW

Recently I appeared in the audience of BBC’s Question Time in my home town of Brighton after a friend asked me to take their place at short notice.

When Marilyn Barmer stood up and nervously asked whether the first gay marriages due to take place in the city in the next 24 hours were a necessary piece of legislation, the temperature in the auditorium plummeted, the warm glow of good-natured yet passionate debate replaced by a glacial hostility. Read more…

Nabisco: Sex discrimination is ‘wholesome’

April 9th, 2014 Comments off
BY KELLY BARTLETT

Scientists agree that breastfeeding is best for infants. Breastmilk is considered so important and nutritious, that hospitals now offer lactation consultants on site to birthing mothers to offer advice and support to moms.

Although infant formula makers work hard to make their product as nutritious as possible, how can powdered formula beat Mother Nature? (Spoiler alert: it can’t.) Read more…

Remember This? New Mexico Gov. Denied Haircut Due to Gay Marriage Stance

March 5th, 2014 Comments off

Oh, the irony! Why aren’t these people getting sued?

by Christine Rousselle

In light of recent court decisions regarding bakeries and photographers, this story is beginning to make the rounds once again: New Mexico Gov. Susana Martinez was dropped from her gay hairdresser’s client list in 2012 due to her stance against same-sex marriage. Read more…

Are “marriage equality” and gender segregation compatible?

January 24th, 2014 Comments off

by Kelly Bartlett

I grew up in a predominately white suburb in Connecticut. Our school was so monochromatic that the powers-that-be decided to bus in blacks from Hartford.

One of the blacks that got off the bus at my school was Joy, with her fluffy side ponytail and glorious smile. Joy said things I never heard spoken out loud before such as, “Lordy, Lordy” in our English class. The black girls taught me Double Dutch jump rope, after which there’s no going back to single. And at our school dances, we were all awed by the skill and grace of the African Americans; even the guys could bust a move. Read more…

Colo baker could go to jail for refusing to make cake for ‘gay wedding’

June 10th, 2013 Comments off

More tolerance:

DENVER (AP) — A gay couple is pursuing a discrimination complaint against a Colorado bakery, saying the business refused them a wedding cake to honor their Massachusetts ceremony, and alleging that the owners have a history of turning away same-sex couples.

As more states move to legalize same-sex marriage and civil unions, the case highlights a growing tension between gay rights advocates and supporters of religious freedom. Read more…

The top marriage myths debunked

June 7th, 2013 Comments off

by Blaise Joseph

Bradford Wilcox, a US academic at the University of Virginia with expertise in marriage and family issues, has an article at The Atlantic entitled Unequal, Unfair, and Unhappy: The 3 Biggest Myths About Marriage Today. He argues that, contrary to popular opinion, most married couples with children are satisfied with their relationships. Read more…