The Wheels They Are A-Spinnin’
This post on Yahoo Answers has been making the rounds as of late.
Can you make a male baby sitter pay child support?I’m a single mom going to college with my sister. We currently rent an apartment together. A couple weeks ago, I asked my neighbor, a trustworthy guy, if he could watch the kids for two hours while I went to class and my sister wasn’t home, and he agreed. If he babysits and doesn’t accept pay, can I sue him for child support because he took on a fatherly role?? I’m sure I can convince a court that he accepted a fatherly role.
By way of disclaimer, I cannot vouch for the authenticity of this question. But it does serve to illustrate something the Ruth Institute has been saying for a while: once you remove sex from procreation (and nothing ruins procreation quite like sex, right?) troubles begins to happen. I have long wondered whether men could somehow be saddled with parental obligations for children not their own merely for interacting with a woman’s children. Evidently, so has this questioner.
Now, I doubt that simple favors will ever result in parental obligations being assigned by courts. But I have little doubt that litigation posing that very question (or one like it) will one day be done. It’s just what we need. The woman’s question is not very far out of line considering the reasoning that courts use to assign parental rights and obligations in, ahem, certain other situations.
Guys, I have another important point to mention to just to you. Serving a woman, being “nice” to her is not a tactic that will win you a woman’s heart. It’s the old story of the pretty lady who ignores the clumsy advances of her friendly neighbor and runs off with the leader of the motorcycle gang or something. This woman’s love was not won by the neighbor’s kindly gesture. Her greed, however, was. A double disincentive to the “win her over by being nice” strategy that has failed so consistently in the past.
As a side note, could you imagine the outrage if a man asked the equivalent question? That his female neighbor babysits for him gratis. She, thereby, performs a maternal role to his children. Could he, therefore, make her sleep with him. After all, mommies do traditionally sleep with daddies…