John Gottman on Lifelong Married Love
In my previous post, I discussed Fred Reed’s writings. I quoted a heartbreaking scene which he wrote about the consequences of divorce and the pain of fathers being separated from their children. Divorce is awful.
In the comments Wintery Knight appreciated our take on this subject. His comments seem to show that he appreciates the dangers that our unfair divorce court system imposes upon men who want to get married.
So, let’s discuss divorce. And let’s discuss how to avoid it. And let’s do it scientifically by looking at the work of Dr. John Gottman.
How do you avoid divorce? Well, you do that by being very good at marriage. How do you get good at marriage? You have to know how and you have to practice what you learn.
That’s why I’m pretty surprised to find that this blog, dedicated to the ideal of lifelong married love, did not have Prof. Gottman’s name anywhere to be found when I did a word search for it. Prof. Gottman has dedicated his life to studying why some couples succeed in their relationships and why some get divorced.
Here’s Professor Gottman discussing this issue. (The video is in four ten-minute parts. It’s well worth your time).
Anybody who wants to get married or wants to improve their marriage ought to seriously consider Dr. Gottman’s teachings.
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I’ll watch them tonight, and maybe even write a post on them.
Marriage is really very interesting and challenging. I think what I want is for a woman to understand how taxes and laws have changed as a result of feminism in a way to discourage marriage and even parenting (opposition to school choice, government-funded day care, etc.). The more a woman can calm the fears of a man by expressing her understanding and opposition to the threats to marriage, the more a man wants to get married to her.