Ruth Institute Blog

If you were to ask me, the wisest rabbi now in practice is Abraham Twerski.  Here are some of his thoughts on marriage:

The Talmud says that the relationship of a husband to his wife should be “to love her as much as he loves himself, and to respect her even more than he respects himself” (Yevamos 62b). It is of interest that Rambam, in citing the Talmud, reverses the order and places respect before love. Why? Because it is unrealistic to expect that one can have so intense a love from day one. It takes time for true love to develop. However, respect is something that can begin on day one.

See what I mean.  Wisest rabbi around.

Some of his phrases are untranslated Hebrew, but I think it may be self explanatory from the context.  If not, just ask for translation in the comments, and I will answer.