Unfortunately there is an ugly flip-side to the coin of pre-marital abstinence that suggests that following the great “moral code” is not the be-all end-all solution it should be. Although you suggest that single moms lack moral codes, I counter that it is precisely BECAUSE we have adhered to that moral code of respecting premarital sexual boundaries that some of us must now contemplate single-parenthood.

“Rejecting men and embracing children” isn’t always about women not wanting marriage or not seeking out traditional family roles. Sometimes it’s simply a matter of women giving up on waiting for an unlikely husband to make a mother out of them. Statistically there are 11 to 13 million more Christian women worldwide than Christian men (Burma study), and the surplus are no more called to a life of childless celibacy for lack of men, than the third world is called to a life of fasting for lack of food.

As a maternally-driven childless virgin in her thirties, I have lost out on my prime sexual and fertile years, and am paying a painful price for my adherence to moral standards. So when I can finally afford to adopt a surplus embryo and experience birth by rescuing a human being from cold-storage, I hope you will paint my single parenthood in slightly more flattering light.