Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

Why have young people in Japan stopped having sex?

October 25th, 2013 Comments off


Ai Aoyama is a sex and relationship counsellor who works out of her narrow three-storey home on a Tokyo back street. Her first name means “love” in Japanese, and is a keepsake from her earlier days as a professional dominatrix. Back then, about 15 years ago, she was Queen Ai, or Queen Love, and she did “all the usual things” like tying people up and dripping hot wax on their nipples. Her work today, she says, is far more challenging. Aoyama, 52, is trying to cure what Japan‘s media calls sekkusu shinai shokogun, or “celibacy syndrome”. Read more…

The Age of the Narcissistic Male

August 10th, 2012 Comments off

by Suzanne Fields

Sex is always interesting, but mix it with politics in a presidential campaign and it becomes downright sensational. First Amendment guarantees of free speech get lost in the protest when gay couples meet to make out at Chick-fil-A. Instead of ordering the spicy chicken sandwich, these men and men and women and women spice up their relationship with rage against Dan Cathy, the born-again president of Chick-fil-A, for saying he supports “the biblical definition of the family unit.” Read more…

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The battle of the sexes in Kenya

July 31st, 2012 Comments off

I think this would apply in many countries.

by Carolyn Moynihan

You might think that people in Kenya had more to worry about than how men and women annoy one another, but that is what pollsters Ipsos Synovate decided to quiz them on. And the results indicate some serious issues in one of the more developed and stable African countries. Read more…

Should men have to pay “preglimony”?

July 12th, 2012 Comments off

by Mariette Ulrich

Oh, what a convoluted web we weave when we practice to deceive ourselves into thinking we can divorce logic, reason, and natural law from reality. This NY Times opinion piece by law professor Shari Motro suggests that men be legally forced to pay “preglimony,” that is, support during pregnancy, regardless of whether they are (or ever were) in a meaningful relationship with a woman, and regardless of whether the pregnancy is carried to term. Read more…


August 22nd, 2011 21 comments

We often protest when homophobes insist that same sex marriage will change marriage for straight people too. But in some ways, they’re right. Here’s how gay relationships will change the institution—but for the better. By Ari Karpel

When birth control pills were making Megan’s sex drive almost nonexistent, she told her boyfriend, Colin, what many gay men in a similar position might say to theirs: “If you want to have sex, feel free to sleep with someone else; just don’t tell me about it.” Read more…

Don’t Call Him Honey…

October 26th, 2010 Comments off

Here’s a good interview by the authors of a good book.

Waiting makes the heart grow fonder

August 23rd, 2010 Comments off

It’s a great way to keep your head clear. But does anybody care, I wonder?

by Carolyn Moynihan

It is always gratifying when research coincides with common sense and everyday experience, as in the case of a new study showing that a relationship in which sexual intimacy is delayed is more likely to endure. Read more…

A Young Man’s Lament: Love Hurts!

August 16th, 2010 1 comment

I admit surprise at this one.


THE GIST: Contrary to popular belief, relationship woes bother men more than they bother women.

THE SOURCE: “Nonmarital Romantic Relationships and Mental Health in Early Adulthood: Does the Association Differ for Women and Men?” The Journal of Health and Social Behavior, June 2010. Read more…

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Teens and porn: a feminist’s worries

January 20th, 2010 Comments off

This shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone, but still, nice to see some confirmation by someone overtly stating it.

Carolyn Moynihan

A British feminist is sounding the alarm about the effects on teenagers of easy access to pornography, saying that a skewed view of sex is becoming the norm in society and the idea of intimacy is dying. Read more…

Adolescents in a pornified culture

December 18th, 2009 Comments off

betsey-copyTo put it simply, porn will cause the destruction of the universe! Or just marriage and real, meaningful relationships, but it’s just the start, I tell you!


Patrick F. Fagan,

By undermining marriage and family life, by assailing them on the internet, pornography is doing serious harm to young people.

“Pornography is a visual representation of sexuality which distorts an individual’s concept of the nature of conjugal relations. This, in turn, alters both sexual attitudes and behaviour. It is a major threat to marriage, to family, to children and to individual happiness. In undermining marriage it is one of the factors in undermining social stability.” Read more…