Political Pressure to Change Language

July 8th, 2014 Comments off

rainbow flagAbout ten years ago, maybe longer, my kids started using the word “random” in a new way. At first it sounded very strange to my ears. They seemed to be using “random” as a synonym for “spontaneous,” or perhaps “weird.” All of the kids I knew used it this way. After a while I got used to it.

This change to the language occurred randomly (haha), ie, spontaneously, but wouldn’t it be strange to have political weight behind a change like that? Does “gender neutrality” amount to political pressure to change language? I think it does. I came across an example of this today and thought it was interesting. Written by a pro family activist who lives in Hong Kong and translates news stories from English into Chinese.

As a translator I can smell that the whole LGBT agenda is in fact an imperial expansion, especially when you look at language. I once doubted my translating skills, as whenever I translate LGBT-related news, I have never found a good way to translate the English words “couple” and “parent(s)” into Chinese. But when I read some very good articles pointing to the cultural imperialism of the LGBT lobby, I realized my difficulty was in fact due to my cultural inheritance, not skills. The Chinese language seriously do not have a word for “couple” or “parent(s)”. What we have for “couple” is actually a joint word “husbandwife”, and what we have for “parents” is actually a joint word “fathermother”! I find I simply can’t translate “couple” or “parent(s)” to fit the gay agenda, UNLESS we change our culture and the Chinese way of looking at family!

This is a very clear example of how language must change in order to accommodate “gay rights” and gender neutrality. The full post is located here.

I guess the big question is this: are these changes to language organic and natural, like the way my kids adopted “random,” or are they enforced due to what some consider to be “LGBT imperialism”?

H/T Bobby Lopez at English Manif.

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Tip #63 from 101 Tips for a Happier Marriage

July 7th, 2014 Comments off

Protect yourself when your spouse starts criticizing you. Imagine yourself inside a giant bell-shaped jar. You can observe what is going on around you, but the jar protects you from anything harmful actually coming in. This gives you some psychological space to begin listening.

This is an opportunity for you to learn and grow, but that can be a difficult and painful task. Pretend you’re watching this encounter unfold on television. You are now the writer. How would you write the scene to provide the best possible outcome for both of you? When it’s your turn to speak, be both the director and the star. You can take the high road and only accept what you think is valuable from your spouse’s comments.

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Take the Challenge: Remove Sarcasm, Win Prize!

July 7th, 2014 Comments off

Dr J’s One Week Challenge began on Sunday, July 6! How are you doing with eliminating the Sarcasm from your life?  Is it harder than you thought? Easier than you thought?

Share the challenge with others.  I win send you a prize at the end of the week!

Free Prize, just for participating in Dr J's One Week Challenge!

Free Prize, just for participating in Dr J’s One Week Challenge!

All you have to do is tell me that you made the effort to eliminate all traces of sarcasm from your life. I will trust you! If you start in the middle of the week, don’t worry: you can still participate!

Not only will I send you a prize, your family and friends will benefit too: they will receive a Kinder, Gentle You, to be friends with. Virtue is its own reward!

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Take Dr. J’s One Week Challenge: Perform a Sarcasm-ectomy

July 5th, 2014 Comments off

I hear more stories of messed up families than you can imagine. A lot of pain in the family can be traced back to trivialities that add up:  misbehavior or indifference or selfishness.

The bad news is that families destroy themselves over trivialities. The good news is that trivialities can be changed!

By whom? By you, yes you! You have the power to make positive changes in the life of your family.

Sarcasm: to tear flesh like dogs. Don't be a vicious dog.

Sarcasm: to tear flesh like dogs. Don’t be a vicious dog.

So I am going to give you this challenge for this coming week: remove all forms of sarcasm from your vocabulary. The word “sarcasm” comes from a Greek word meaning, “to tear flesh like dogs.”  There is never a good time to tear someone’s flesh.

That is my challenge to you. For one week: no sarcasm.

To get the most out of this challenge, observe these simple rules.

  • Keep this our little secret! Do not tell anyone in your family what you are doing. Just quietly do it.
  • Resist the urge to correct someone else, or to retaliate. Those behaviors defeat your purpose. (Closely related: do not send this post to a family member and tell them they need to do it. Even if they are the most sarcastic person you know. You go first!)
  • When someone is sarcastic to you, or when you otherwise feel the urge to be sarcastic, picture yourself taking that feeling into your hands, and putting it up on a very high shelf. “Yes, Desire for Sarcasm: I see you up there. I’m in charge of you: you are not in charge of me! I am not taking you down off that shelf!”

Are you up for it? I am betting you can improve the quality of your family’s life THIS WEEK, RIGHT NOW!

At the end of the week, send me a note, telling me how it went. I will send you a free gift!  And, I may feature your comments on this blog. Send your note to info@ruthinstitute.org

Your friend,

“Dr. J”

Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, Founder and President of the Ruth Institute

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You were thirsty and I gave you…eh, nevermind

July 4th, 2014 Comments off

We had two cubic yards of dirt delivered and dumped next to our driveway. I immediately got to work with a shovel and wheelbarrow, transporting the dirt all the way around to the side of the house where I needed it. It was a hot day and tiring work. My seven and five-year-old daughters were skipping along at my heels, to and fro. Finally I stopped, wiped my brow and said, “This is hard work. I could use some cold water.” My daughters immediately looked at each other with an expression of sudden inspiration. “We should help Dad!” one declared to the other, who answered with a nod. As I began to smile with satisfaction at my thoughtful, charitable little girls, my face suddenly fell as, instead of running inside for a glass of cool liquid refreshment, they each grabbed fistfuls of dirt and began carrying them around the house.

-Paul, father of 3

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WHY GOD MADE MOMS

July 4th, 2014 Comments off

Answers given by 2nd grade school children to the following questions:

 

Why did God make mothers?

1. She’s the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.

2. Mostly to clean the house.

3. To help us out of there when we were getting born. Read more…

Hobby Lobby and The War Among Women

July 3rd, 2014 Comments off

This article was also published at Christianpost.com here.

You have no doubt heard that the men of the US Supreme Court are making war on the interests of American women.  You may, however, have some doubt as to which interests of which women. I maintain that there has been a War Among Women for the past

Everywoman: embedded within the family  Elite Woman: alone at the top

Everywoman: embedded within the family
Elite Woman: alone at the top

50 years or so. And most of the time, the Elite Women prevail over Everywoman.  But not this time.

Let me tell you about a friend of mine named Katie.  She is a brilliant attorney, who works part-time for a non-profit public interest legal organization. Katie has nine children, whom she homeschools. She lives out in the country in coastal California.  By any reasonable reckoning, Katie, is “having it all:” big family, country living in one of the most beautiful places on earth, and meaningful, intellectually challenging work.

However, it is safe to say that Katie is highly unlikely to ever be appointed to the Supreme Court.  She has other concerns. She does not have the single-minded focus on her legal career that would allow her to be a serious contender.

I too, have had a wonderful advantaged life: meaningful work, good family life. But I never chaired an economics department. I

never sat on any prestigious commissions. I wasn’t given any political appointment as my childless or male peers have done.

Which brings me back to the subject at hand: whose interests do the women on the Supreme Court actually represent?

Ruth Bader Ginsburg came of age in the short window of time when women could still get married, have kids, go to law school, and have a career after child-bearing.  Her two children were born when she was 22 and 32. Thanks to radical feminism, highly educated women have a much more difficult time doing these things. They can go to law school and have a career alright. But getting married and having children sometime before menopause, not so much.

Justice Ginsburg had the lifelong support of her husband in her career aspirations. Thanks to no-fault divorce, women today cannot count on a lifetime of mutual support with their husbands. Justice Ginsburg has been safely insulated from the negative fallout of the Sexual Revolution which she and her radical feminist colleagues did so much to champion.

The other two women on the Supreme Court, Justices Kagan and Sotomayor, are childless. It is highly unlikely that the two of them understand and respect the lives and aspirations of women like my friend Katie and me. And for less educated women, family is everything and “career” is a job to put food on the table. Elite women know nothing of Everywoman, the people who have endured the Sexual Revolution, and who do not have high status jobs as compensation.

Mennonite Hahn family: Are the men of the Supreme Court making war on these women?

Mennonite Hahn family: Are the men of the Supreme Court making war on these women?

Do you think for one moment my friend Katie feels “oppressed” by the Hobby Lobby decision, or that she wishes the Women of the Court had prevailed? Did I mention that she works for a pro-life pro-bono public interest law firm?

As a rule, the Elite Woman prevails over Everywoman, who wants her children and family more than she wants status, money or career. The Sexual Revolution has been an imposition by the Elites upon the masses, from the beginning. From the beginning, it is the people of modest means who have suffered from no-fault divorce, and hook-ups and instability and relationship churning and non-marital childbearing.  A recent study from Johns Hopkins University demographers shows that 87% of women without a high school diploma had at least one child outside of marriage, compared with only 32% of women with college degrees. (Table 1A).

Women like Katie and I are willing to let ourselves see the harm that the Sexual Revolution had done to the poor. Our lives do not depend on defending the Sexual Revolution.  By contrast, for many Elite Women, the Sexual Revolution has made possible their lives as they know them. They literally cannot imagine what their lives would be like without contraception, with abortion as a back-up plan.

As I say, Katie and I will never occupy the seats of power that are available to childless women. We have many achievements to our credit, but Elite Women will run the show.  We have good lives: I do not regret for one moment, the choices I have made. But there is no getting around it: childless women have an advantage over mothers in the competition for power and influence.

All I can say is: thank God for the men on the Supreme Court. At least someone is sticking up for Everywoman against the Elite Women.

Jennifer Roback Morse is Founder and President of the Ruth Institute, which inspires the Survivors of the Sexual Revolution to recover from their negative experiences and share their stories with the young.  Join us here.

 

101 Tips for a Happier Marriage – book review

July 3rd, 2014 Comments off

Reviewed by Julie Dortch Cragin, wife, mother of six, manager of St. Mary’s Bookstore in Nashville, Tennessee, and author of Bless My Child, Jesus at My Side, and Visiting Mary: Her U.S. Shrines and Their Graces.

101 Tips for a Happier Marriage: Simple Ways for Couples to Grow Closer to God and to Each Other
“The whole point of this book,” write its authors, “is that you can improve your marriage, even if your spouse doesn’t change a bit.” In a time when strong marriages seem to be an exception, couples young and old can benefit from learning ways to refresh their relationships and to bring joy back into their commitments. Remember that first year of married bliss? Wouldn’t we all like that year to last a lifetime? Read more…

What a charmer

July 3rd, 2014 Comments off

As I was getting dressed one morning, my two-year-old daughter walked in and said, “Oh, you’re so pretty, Mommy.”

I replied, “Awh, thank you, Baby. Sometimes Mommy doesn’t feel pretty.”

After a long pause she said, “Then I guess you’re right,” and walked out the door.

-Trish, mother of 3

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Porn addiction is as serious as drug addiction

July 2nd, 2014 Comments off

Is this what we have come to with the redefinition of marriage–that a man, a lawyer no less (not sure if that helps or harms my case) wants to legally marry his computer? The second part of this article speaks about the actual, physiological changes that occur in the brains of porn addicts. Spoiler alert: these changes are not good!

This article comes from Mercatornet.com.

BY NICOLE M. KING

The News Story – Florida man demands right to wed computer

A recent article in The Telegraph reports that a former lawyer, Chris Sevier, recently sought a marriage license to marry his Mac-book computer. In trying to argue his case, Sevier explained that he had become addicted to pornography via his computer, and so, “over time, [he] began preferring sex with [his] computer over sex with real women.” Read more…