Note: I get many letters from people asking for studies or quick answers to defend marriage to their friends. I get so many of these requests, I decided to put together a set of standard responses. I hope this series will be helpful for more people than those particular individuals who have written to me. With some time and study and practice, anyone can become a Marriage Apologist within their own sphere of influence!
Thanks for your note. I am so glad that you feel motivated to explain the truth about marriage to your friend. I am eager to enlist you in our campaign for “one man, one woman, for life!”
I am sorry to say, however, that I cannot just give you a list a studies “showing gay marriage is bad for society.” First off, such studies don’t exist in the form that you are asking about. And second off, your friend is unlikely to be persuaded by such empirical evidence anyhow. But you probably guessed that already!
Let me give you a few first steps. First: educate yourself about marriage itself. If we don’t know what marriage is, and why it is good for society, we won’t have a clue as to the significance of a gender requirement.
( And BTW, I suggest that you avoid the term “gay marriage” and similar terms. Our position is that there is no such thing as “gay marriage.” We should not argue about whether “gay marriage is good for society.” That already accepts your opponents’ terms of debate. But I digress.)
As a first step in educating yourself, I suggest studying Love and Economics. You can do this two ways. If you are a reader, you
can buy the book from the Ruth Store and read it. If you are a listener, you can go to our podcast page and listen to this recent talk that I gave to about 150 law students. I think it will be a good level for you, reasonably sophisticated, without assuming Read more…