PROPOSAL: gender-based civil unions

October 7th, 2014 Comments off

Proposal from the Ruth Institute:

Gender-Based Civil Unions

Since an essential public purpose of civil marriage in the United States has been to attach mothers and fathers to their children and to one another, and since this essential purpose is being overwritten and therefore discarded due to gender neutral marriage and parenting laws, we propose the following:

To establish civil unions that are gender based–one man and one woman. With respect to taxation, parentage, federal benefits, etc. (reference), they will be legally equivalent to (now gender neutral) marriage in everything but the name. The legal doctrine that was formerly known as the marital presumption of paternity, which existed in order to attach the father to the family, was distorted into the marital presumption of parentage under gender neutral marriage and parentage. It shall be restored to its former function of attaching the father to the family for these civil unions. Gender based terms shall be used to describe the parties, such as male, female, mother, father, etc.

Male/female couples who were previously considered married under the gender neutral system may opt into a gender-based civil union. Churches who uphold marriage as the union between a man and a woman can perform these ceremonies under whatever name they wish. If they wish to call it marriage, they can do so. There will be no speech restrictions regarding what individuals, churches, or other private entities call these unions. However, with respect to the legal code, they will be called civil unions.

Regarding divorce: generally, we prefer the state to have a higher bar to overcome before getting involved in a divorce for these civil unions than it does currently for civil marriage. Michael J. McManus, in the Spring 2011 edition of The Family in America (reference), proposes what he calls “Three Achievable No-Fault Reforms.” They are:

  1. Mutual Consent.
  2. Parental Divorce Reduction Act.
  3. Responsible Spouse/Fit Parent.

We are open to discussion about any of these or other reasonable proposals. Our primary goals are to reaffirm sex differences in the legal code and to reaffirm the father’s attachment to the family. Secondarily, we see these civil unions as an opportunity to make long-needed reforms to divorce laws.

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Ruth Institute reacts to Supreme Court with Sorrow, but not Surprise

October 6th, 2014 Comments off

The Ruth Institute expresses sorrow but not surprise, at the Supreme Court’s decision to allow challenges to natural marriage to stand.

And thanks allies who labored to defend marriage.

Press Release from the Ruth Institute

October 6, 2014 San Marcos CA—The Ruth Institute expresses its sorrow but not surprise, at the Supreme Court’s decision to allow challenges to natural marriage to stand. President Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse stated, “Here at the Ruth Institute, we have known for some time that the Elites of this society have both the desire and the power to create genderless marriage, so-called gay marriage.  By refusing to hear the legal challenges to the courts that have overturned state marriage laws, the judicial Elites have taken another step toward gutting the institution of marriage. ”

Dr Morse predicted that this will not be the last step in the campaign to redefine and reshape the family, using the power of the government.  “Redefining marriage redefines parenthood. Governments have already begun rewriting birth certificates and marriage licenses. Children can now have three legal parents. The government will no longer be constrained by biology in its determination of parental rights and responsibilities. How this will amount to more freedom or equality for anyone, I cannot imagine.” Read more…

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Praise for 101 Tips for a Happier Marriage

October 6th, 2014 Comments off

“101 Tips for a Happier Marriage is full of practical, helpful ideas to keep a marriage alive and well. It should be handed out to every couple going through a pre-Cana program. If every couple followed its advice, there would be many more happy and successful marriages!” –Patrice Fagnant-MacArthur, Author of The Catholic Baby Name Book

“An eye-openingm energizing, attitude-adjusting, wake-up-call-of-a-book that every married couple should read and re-read. A power-packed energy drink of marital wisdom and truth.” –Tom Allen, Founding Editor of Catholic Exchange.

Have you gotten a copy yet for yourself and those you love? Click here for a standard copy, and here for a personalized, autographed copy by both authors.

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Alas, poor butterfly. I knew him well.

October 4th, 2014 Comments off

From parentingisfunny.wordpress.com

It was my fault, really. I spotted the butterfly just standing there on our back patio. I called the girls over to see it. They came on tiptoes. Then they sat in awe and spoke in hushed tones, not wishing to disturb it or scare it away.

Attempts to get them to eat breakfast were thwarted by the mystique of the orange, black, and white. Soon sketch pads came out and whole pages were being devoted to the majesty of the monarch. Read more…

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Building a Better Fatherhood

October 4th, 2014 Comments off

Self-giving love is the best foundation for family life

By Scott Yenor

This article was originally published at fathersforgood.org on September 21, 2014.

Cultural support for fatherhood has collapsed in the past 50 years, and there are few signs of a renewal. In light of this, how can fathers summon the courage to fulfill their mission?

Their mission is two-fold: to love their wives and commit to providing for the total welfare of their child. Each of these requires from men a conscious attitude of self-giving love. This admirable attitude does not come always naturally to us, and it is increasingly under siege in our culture that emphasizes independence and self-fulfillment. Read more…

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What can you say when you’re called a Hater or a Bigot?

October 2nd, 2014 Comments off

Do you support natural marriage, but don’t know how to explain why, especially without reaching for a Bible?

Let us make it easier for you. Read 77 Non-Religious Reasons to Support Man/Woman Marriage and/or simply have several copies on hand to give to people when this topic comes up. You can even pass them out to strangers.

We know that we are not haters or bigots. We love more than those who call us such names can understand. Learn why preserving natural marriage is a struggle of love.

Check out the 77 Reasons here.

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If only it were that easy kid, believe me

September 26th, 2014 Comments off

My five-year-old, L, was yelling at the two-year-old, E, to move out of the way of the tv. She couldn’t see the last moments of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs.

Snow White

If that guy’s your prince, I would have kept waiting, honey. Is that a shirt or an apron?

I employed the appropriate motherly tool of yelling from the kitchen, “E, down in front!” Somehow, that didn’t work, as L was continuing her verbal tirade against the door who would make a better window. Finally, I walked into the living room, only to see the words, “The End” on the screen.

“Relax, L. The movie’s over,” I said and walked out again. Yep, parenting at its finest, folks.

L, on the other hand, came up with a brilliant solution for avoiding future such egregious situations involving her little sister. 

“Mom,” she called to me. “E’s birthday shouldn’t be in March. We should move it closer so she’ll be older and listen better.”

Don’t I wish that were possible sometimes!

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Ayn Rand in the mind of an impressionable twenty-something

September 24th, 2014 Comments off

I went to see Atlas Shrugged Part III the night it opened. The evening led me to reflect on what had attracted me to Ayn Rand as a twenty-something graduate student in economics.

And let it be said: I was very attracted to her ideas. I appreciated how she dramatized the evils of a centrally planned economy. I was Ayn Randpersuaded by her depiction of the fast descent of economic control into a totalitarian state.

Most of all, I loved how she said it was ok to be selfish. There it is. The naked truth about the appeal of Ayn Rand. Selfishness and an irrational individualism continues to be a glaring weakness of much of the Right today.

But why exactly, was selfishness so appealing to my twenty-something self? Read more…

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Building a Better Fatherhood

September 24th, 2014 Comments off

Our culture of individualism has trouble seeing the family, or understanding what it is seeing, when it does see the family.  Ruth Institute Circle of Experts member, Dr. Scott Yenor has an inspiring article, well worth sharing with the dads in your life.

How is our culture’s emphasis on autonomous independence different from an attitude of love? Is that salary yours or is it the family’s? Is the house you live in yours or is it family’s? Is your child’s education his or hers or is it the family’s? Is your time yours or is it the family’s? When these things are yours, you have adopted an attitude of independence; when they are the family’s, you exhibit an attitude of love.

Writing on the Knights of Columbus Fathers for Good blog, Dr. Yenor points out that the world needs good fathers and that we do not appreciate them.  More than that: our culture of individualism undermines good fatherhood, and blinds us to good fathers when they do appear.

Scott Yenor, Ph.D.  Ruth Institute Expert Author of "Family in Politics" a really great book, IMHO.

Scott Yenor, Ph.D.
Ruth Institute Expert
Author of “Family in Politics” a really great book, IMHO.

We hear all about “self-interest rightly understood” and “rational self-interest” and “ethical egoism.” These concepts obviously imply their opposites: “self-interest wrongly understood” and “irrational self-interest” and “unethical egoism.”  Perhaps we just need a completely new term to describe our current cultural moment: “irrational individualism.”

In any case, great and inspiring article by Dr. Yenor. Share with the Dads in your life!

 

 

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Stand Up to Elites to Stand for Children

September 23rd, 2014 Comments off

Why should we stand for the family, or for marriage, or for life or for any of the culturally-conservative issues?

Ordinary People Standing for the Family in Utah

Ordinary People Standing for the Family in Utah

Living in California during the Proposition 8 debates, I had a front row seat watching the “elites” mangle the meaning of marriage. The judicial elites have handed down a disastrous series of federal court decisions, solidifying governmental commitment to the ideology of the sexual revolution. The entertainment elites seem to celebrate every family form except the natural family of a loving father and mother
married faithfully to one another and raising their own children together. The media elites continue their shameless manipulation of public opinion. The economic elites pour money into political and propaganda campaigns designed to prop up the structure of the sexual revolution. Academic elites continue behind-the-scenes scribbling, advocating for recreating marriage, the family, and even the human body, in their own image. Read more…

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