Two ‘Brave New Worlds’: One For Women, One For Men (And Never The Twain Shall Meet?)
Occasionally on this blog, same-sex ‘marriage’ proponents have challenged those of us who would seek to protect the institution of marriage to explain why, if we truly believe that (part of) the public purpose of marriage is to attach parents to their children, we nevertheless maintain that even a man and woman who are (for whatever reason) incapable of procreating together, or who simply have no desire or intention of doing so, should still be allowed – and even encouraged – to enjoy the benefits of married life.
Well, of course that challenge attempts to ignore the first of the public purposes of marriage we enumerate: to attach men and women to each other. Marriage integrates the two halves of humanity – male and female – and same-sex so-called ‘marriage’ would tend to segregate our species by gender.
Two articles I found today illustrate why that is the last thing we – or any society – should consider doing to our culture because, as it turns out, humanity is already on a dangerous course toward bifurcation on the basis gender – and on a world-wide scale, no less.
The first article, Where Have The Good Men Gone?, is adapted from a soon to be published book (Manning Up: How the Rise of Women Has Turned Men Into Boys) that describes how the men and women (both) of this new generation are, more and more, beginning to see males as irrelevant to procreation and family.
This is largely a result of a new sociological phenomenon (something being called “pre-adulthood”) that is having a much more deleterious effect on young males than on their female peers:
But for all its familiarity, pre-adulthood represents a momentous sociological development. It’s no exaggeration to say that having large numbers of single young men and women living independently, while also having enough disposable income to avoid ever messing up their kitchens, is something entirely new in human experience. Yes, at other points in Western history young people have waited well into their 20s to marry, and yes, office girls and bachelor lawyers have been working and finding amusement in cities for more than a century. But their numbers and their money supply were always relatively small. Today’s pre-adults are a different matter. They are a major demographic event.
What also makes pre-adulthood something new is its radical reversal of the sexual hierarchy. Among pre-adults, women are the first sex. They graduate from college in greater numbers (among Americans ages 25 to 34, 34% of women now have a bachelor’s degree but just 27% of men), and they have higher GPAs. As most professors tell it, they also have more confidence and drive. These strengths carry women through their 20s, when they are more likely than men to be in grad school and making strides in the workplace. In a number of cities, they are even out-earning their brothers and boyfriends.
That is going to result in (possibly global) social upheavals that are serious enough. But according the second article, Renting a Womb, now even those men (even heterosexual men) who are in a position to start a family (and who care to bother) are often opting to contract with a surrogate to produce a child to order.
Does anyone besides me remember when women seethed in resentment about being treated like “a sex symbol and a baby factory”? Well, of course this new paradigm for procreation only works for men if they can find a woman who can be persuaded (for enough money, of course) to settle for only the ‘baby factory’ part – however it makes her feel about herself:
“It was really sad to hear that he was not able to have a baby of his own because of relationship problems and with the financial gain that came with it, I said why not?” she admits.
She says the process was fairly simple even though she was apprehensive at first.
After going through a routine blood analysis and HIV tests, she conceived and was paid half the amount and immediately placed on a medical cover for three years.
“During the pregnancy, he catered for all my needs and two weeks after the birth of his son he wired the other half into my account, and I gave up the baby. It was traumatic but the allure for the money and the heart to help him out made me do it,” she explains.
“I feel guilty and not proud of what I did but I always tell myself that I made a sacrifice for another person’s happiness through my good heart. I am happy that I helped him achieve his goals of becoming a parent even though I don’t plan to be a surrogate again in the future,” she offers.
So, do I remember some folks on this blog disputing the suggestion that surrogacy has evolved into an industry that manufactures babies to be marketed like commodities?
You know, if you find yourself in a hole that is already so deep that you’ll have a hard time climbing out of it, the first order of business is to stop digging!! (especially if you figure out that the hole you’re in is a grave) We need to role back the legal ‘innovations’ (such as ‘no-fault’ divorce) that have put marriage on the list of endangered institutions. But most of all, we must refrain from driving the last nail in marriage’s coffin. Why would we even want to find out if same-sex so-called ‘marriage’ will be that “last nail”?